You and your spouse have been together for over 20 years, but over time, you’ve grown apart. Your children are now reaching their later years in high school, so while you’re considering getting a divorce, you wonder if now isn’t the best time.
The last thing you want to do is to disrupt your children when they’re so close to moving out of the home anyway. If you wait just three or four more years, they’ll be off to college, and you can divorce without that extra stress. Is it worth the wait, though?
Choosing when to divorce with kids
Choosing when to divorce can be tough, but one thing you should note is that it’s better to go through a positive divorce than to stay in a negative marriage. Your children are likely to be badly affected by the negativity of two parents living together when they don’t get along. They’re old enough, at this point, to have a real conversation about divorce and how it could positively influence them and remove that tension from the home.
If you plan to stay married for the sake of your children, remember that they are likely to pick up on disputes and arguments. They’ll feel the tension and frustration that you’re dealing with as well.
It’s up to you to decide if you can live comfortably and in a positive environment until your children leave the nest, but if not, considering a divorce is not a bad idea. Your attorney can go over the options with you now, so you know what to expect as you move forward.