Many Illinois parents hesitate to end their marriages because they feel it would adversely affect their children. Their hearts may be in the right place, but remaining in these circumstances could actually do more harm than good. In reality, divorce could actually help the children thrive.
No matter how hard a couple tries, children often figure out that their parents are not getting along. Even younger children can feel tension in the air, and it could have an effect on them. One study of college age students whose parents divorced expressed that they learned a lot from their parents when they were supportive after the divorce.
These days, couples work diligently to make sure their divorces are more amicable. The goal is to stay out of court and work out a settlement that allows them to remain in their children’s lives as much as possible. The less contentious the process is, the higher the odds are that the parents will work together to give their children the attention, love and security they need. After all, just because the marriage is over does not mean that the two stop being partners when it comes to raising their children.
Coming to the conclusion that divorce would actually be better for the children could be a challenge. Even in today’s society in which the definition of family has changed, many Illinois couples still believe, at least for a while, that staying together despite difficulties in the marriage is better for the children. Once that myth is dispelled, everyone can move forward and start a new life free from the tension and confrontations that were prevalent during the marriage.
